WARNING: Long read..sorry 
I’ve recognized this friend given that we were young. We liked every other back then but never ever had the opportunity to genuinely show it since I moved overseas. 7 years later of no communication, I located him online. We talked heaps then one day he told me he loved me (apparently) and have always had. I believed him as I too have often had feelings for him and I by no means actually got him totally out of my method. However we had been both in lengthy term relationships – we continued our stupidity on line – until I’ve decided to finally visit my residence nation for the very first time. By the way, both our girl/boyfriend knew about us getting feelings for every single other but did not know the extent of it.
1 day his girl couldn’t take it anymore, they had been about to break up but the guy realized how considerably he loved his girl and chose her over me. That would have been the finish of it if the guy did not admit to me later on (a month before my inevitable flight house) that he still loved me so considerably.
And then there he was, sitting in front of me under the starry sky. He couldn’t take his eyes off of me, he kept holding my hands, touching my face, kept saying how he couldn’t believe I was finally there and how overwhelmingly happy he was to see me again. Then he kissed me. I resisted at 1st but to no avail.
Then he broke it off with his girlfriend and we had been extremely pleased. Or so I thought.
About two weeks just before my flight back, he broke it off with me, saying he’s afraid to just lose me again as soon as I leave that he’d rather forget about us while it’s still early than suffer the pain of not being with me later on. The subsequent day, we got back together saying he’s thought about it and desires to give us an additional attempt. Then a week soon after that he broke it off once more and stated he just wanted to be friends and absolutely nothing far more. Few days later he admitted he was trying to get back with his “ex”, the subsequent day he told me he’s back with his “ex”. Then the day after that which was two days before my flight back, his “ex” rings me and tells me it was all a sham.
Apparently the guy asked her if they could pretend to break up although I was there so that we could be together and I’d take pleasure in my check out there. Apparently they couldn’t quit me from “attempting” to get with him anyway may as well “lend” him to me for the time getting. And she wasn’t lying. It was all accurate. They planned it all along, apparently he by no means actually loved me.
I haven’t talked to the guy for two months. He’s really in hiding.
So now I recognize that he never truly loved me when we were “together” and only saw me as a friend. Then why go by way of all that act and just tell me we had no opportunity. He put so considerably time and effort on me that not even as soon as did I believe that he was just acting. He created me fall for him even a lot more and even asked me to marry him.
All these pretenses and heart break just so I’d take pleasure in my holiday? It obviously did much more harm than good and wrecked our friendship as I presently hate him a lot more than everyone in the world.
Answer by John
No, he’s just messing you about. He’s not willing to show you commitment so you ought to drop it before you get hurt. There are so several other guys out there and you do not require him.